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The Cycle of Abuse

Feeling like your fighting too much with your spouse? Does his or her reaction make you feel like you are solely to blame for the issues in your relationship? Or do you make excuses for his or her clearly abusive behavior to make yourself feel better about the way that he or she treats you? Maybe[…]

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What Happy Couples Do: Talk About Sex, Baby

Even in our day and age we are bombarded by images of women in lingerie on prime time television. We hear Salt-N-Pepa songs replay on the radio. Alyssa Milano often makes headlines for her activism surrounding breast feeding in public. In this context, it might be hard to imagine that anyone has difficulty discussing sex[…]

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What Happy Couples Do: They Don’t Know Each Other

“When he said that, I just knew he was wondering whether I actually had that level of experience and I got so angry!” One of the biggest problems I see with couples who come to me for therapy is one or both partners assuming they know what the other is thinking. Assumption influences how you[…]

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What Happy Couples Do: Argue

You are talking to your friend about your argument last night with your wife. After venting and beginning to feel a bit better, you ask him about the last time he and his wife argued. He can’t remember. In fact, in the past few years, he genuinely thinks they haven’t had a single fight. Sounds[…]

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What Happy Couples Do: Pick Their Battles

You’ve been married for 5 years. Your spouse comes home from work and leaves their coat on the chair even though they know it drives you nuts not to just put it in the closet. Then they bring up the furniture. This is the other argument you’ve been having for as long as you can[…]

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Adult Attachment: Why It’s Not A Bad Thing To Need Your Partner

When most people hear about the concept of attachment, they typically have one of two associations. Some people, especially those who have studied psychology, immediately think of childhood attachment theory. Some people have very negative associations with attachment in adulthood, often flashing back to concepts like co-dependency in families and marriage and feedback to be as[…]

Anxious About Your Relationship? 4 Signs It May Be Cheating

Check out my latest guest blog contribution on Anxiety.org on what constitutes cheating on your partner, which is more of a grey area than you might realize. https://www.anxiety.org/relationship-anxiety-4-signs-of-cheating?utm_campaign=shareaholic