“I just have too much going on right now. I don’t have time”.
“I have too many appointments already. I’ll never be able to squeeze another one in”.
“There’s absolutely no way. I have too much to do right now. This would only add more stress to my plate”.
Sound familiar? These are all common reasons people give in response to someone saying that they should get help or support, sometimes in the form of therapy. If these statements resonate with you, you may have recently reached a breaking point and expressed feeling overwhelmed or at your wits end. Then someone goes and suggests therapy. How dare they! They don’t understand how much you have going on. If you had time for therapy then you wouldn’t need it in the first place! These reactions on your part are understandable. Often times when we are overwhelmed with too much the thought of adding one more thing to our plates, no matter how helpful it might be, seems ridiculous and counter-productive. It may feel like by going to therapy, a support group, or other form of therapeutic support that you are adding more to your plate in a way which increases rather than decreases stress. In fact, this is a common reaction many people have. The unfortunate reality, though, is that when stressed or overwhelmed the desire to avoid adding more to your plate is likely to do more harm than good.
Why We Should Seek Out Help
If nothing changes, nothing changes. It is completely possible that current stressors will dissipate over time or that some of your issues will resolve themselves naturally. However, if you are struggling to the point where loved ones are suggesting you see someone or there has been an outwardly noticeable change in you or your demeanor at work or home, it may be time to seek help. By continuing in your current circumstance and maintaining the status quo, you are ensuring that you don’t get the help you need and that nothing will happen to lessen your current load. While it may feel overwhelming, seeking help and support during this time will actually do more to decrease your stress level whether by pro-actively working towards improvement or simply having a safe space to talk about your issues that doesn’t otherwise exist. It is natural to avoid adding one more thing to your plate during times of struggle. The difference here is, the thing you would be adding is supportive of your functioning which ultimately means it will be beneficial to you, even if it doesn’t feel that way.
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