Top 3 Relationship Killers

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Top 3 Relationship Killers You Need To Avoid – Tips From 62 Famous Experts

Tip #1 – Not communicating

One of the first things I always ask someone in individual therapy when they tell me about something that upsets them about their partner or something they are concerned about is: “Have you asked or told your partner about this?”. Unfortunately, often times the answer is no.

Tip #2 – Arguing poorly

Arguing in a relationship is normal and expected. It is how you argue that can make or break a relationship. John Gottman, a prominent couples’ therapist and researcher, identifies 4 ways of arguing that can lead to the downfall of a relationship. He calls them “The Four Horseman of the Apocalypse”. They include, criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling.

Tip #3 – Failing to constantly work to build and maintain emotional connection

Partners have to make a regular effort to know one another and support one another. This can be something as simple as a ritualized check in every day about what is going on in your partner’s life and offering support. If a couple doesn’t maintain an emotional connection they will start to grow apart.

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