Fake It Till You Make It

Sometimes in life we come across an issue or a problem where there seems to be no solution. You may feel like you have tried absolutely everything but no matter what technique or coping skill you use, it simply doesn’t cut it. You feel like nothing is working. At a certain point, you may even stop trying to feel better due to feeling helpless and hopeless. You may try a new doctor or therapist, but remain skeptical that anything will actually work to make you feel better. Unfortunately, this is not an uncommon phenomenon in general but also in the field of mental health. People struggling with depression, anxiety, or any other forms of mental health concerns may have come across the latter situation at least once in their lives.

One of the hardest parts about feeling hopeless and helpless is that even if a doctor or therapist suggests a tool, technique, or intervention to help treat your concern, you may be lacking motivation to follow through, belief that the recommendation will even work, or both. This can often cause difficulty in benefiting from therapy. There are, subjectively, plenty of incompetent treatment providers in any field. However, by not choosing to trust and follow your chosen provider’s treatment recommendations you are allowing your difficulty in believing something will work or struggling to find motivation to try it out to create a self fulfilling prophecy. The intervention never winds up working because you never gave it a chance to.

But how do you over come these barriers? Emotional states can be hard to combat. If you are feeling so depressed you can barely get dressed and showered for work, how can you be expected to muster up the emotional stamina to combat hopeless and helpless feelings to empower you to try your therapist’s technique?

This is where “Fake It Till You Make It” comes in. Sometimes it isn’t about whether you emotionally have the drive or want to do something. Sometimes you have to and have to choose to even in the face of how you feel. Even if you don’t want to do something, you can know cognitively that it is important to give your therapist’s tool a try to see if it can work for you. You can use this mindset and awareness to empower you to make the choice in the moment to use it, even if you don’t emotionally believe it will work. It may not work, but you won’t know unless you try it. It also might work and be just what you needed to start to feel better. If you practice this technique long enough, you may even start to notice that you have increased drive to practice techniques assigned by your therapist. Fake it till you make it.

Change your mindset. Change your behavior. Your feelings will follow.


Need help in learning how to fake it till you make it? Feeling overwhelmed with your mental health and like nothing has worked? Schedule an appointment for therapy or email info@rachelpokorneytherapy.com.

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