Have you ever been unhappy in your life, but not be sure what is wrong or what you can do about it? You may know about certain aspects of your life that make you unhappy. You may describe it as “having a negative attitude” or “bad things always happening to me”. You may even know that you want to go to therapy to fix it. The problem is, you don’t know what it is that you actually want fixed. Don’t get me wrong, you are well aware that you don’t want to feel badly anymore. But you aren’t quite sure what exactly will make those negative feeling go away for good. What would it take to make you happy?
The Miracle Question
That’s where the miracle question comes in. The miracle question goes something like this: Imagine you are watching yourself on a movie screen. Before the movie begins, you wave your magic wand and everything in the world is exactly as you would like it to be. It is the perfect day and the perfect life. Now let’s roll the movie and see, in excruciating detail, what that looks like. For example, where are you living? Is anyone living with you? Do you go to work and, if so, where and what time? How is your boss? What do you eat for your meals? And so on and so forth with analysis on every minor level of your day.
Doing The Miracle Question At Home
At first glance, doing this exercise may seem easy enough. I think that you’ll find, however, that if you try it you may be surprised at the amount of thought that goes into doing it right. Sometimes you may need the help of a friend, family member, or therapist to walk you through it. You may also want them there to call you out for forgetting to include something. For example, always complaining about how anxious you are at work? You’ll want someone there who will make sure you thoroughly examine what a job that doesn’t make you anxious looks like.
Completing this exercise is an excellent way to evaluate your life whether you are in a deep depression or just wanting to work on tweaking goal setting for your future. Give it a try and see what happens.
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